Anoint Me....I'm Single!
Some things have been making me ponder life lately and one of these things is about married life opposed to single life. I love how in the New Testament Paul talks about single life being incredible and wonderful but sometimes i get a little confused and almost depressed about which life is really 'the better life'. For someone who's been single for at least 25 of her 26 years, it's only natural and extremely easy for her to say, i'd rather be married. But then she asks herself the question, "who or what are you focusing your attention on if all you want is to be married?". (Why am i talking about myself in the third person?)
Like, i said, it's been very heavily permeating my mind only in the last month or so and i actually received this excerpt in an email from a new acquaintence quite a while ago and have only just sat down and actually read it! I thought it was good which is why i'm blogging it here...have a read if you've got the time even if you're married or dating someone!
Anoint me...I'm single!
TD Jakes
"Some of you do not understand the benefits of being single. In reality, while you’re not married, you really ought to be involved with God. When you get married, you direct all of the training that you had while you were unmarried toward your spouse. The apostle Paul addressed this issue in his first letter to the church at Corinth.
“I want all of you to be free from worry. An unmarried man worries about how to please the Lord. But a married man has more worries. He must worry about the things of this world, because he wants to please his wife. So he is pulled in two directions. Unmarried women and women who have never been married worry only about pleasing the Lord, and they keep their bodies and minds pure. But a married woman worries about the things of this world, because she wants to please her husband.” 1 Corinthians 7:32-34
Single women often forget some very important advantages they have. At five o’clock in the morning you can lie in bed and pray in the spirit till seven-thirty, and not have to answer to anyone. You can worship the Lord whenever and however you please. You can lie prostrate on the floor in your house and worship and no one will become annoyed about it. “Unmarried women and women who have never been married worry only about pleasing the Lord.”
Often those who minister in churches hear unmarried women complain about their need for a husband, but rarely does a single women boast about the kind of relationship she is free to build with the Lord. Are you complaining about how you need someone? Take advantage of the time you don’t have to worry about cooking meals and caring for a family. While a woman is single she needs to recognize that she has the unique opportunity to build herself up in the Lord without the drains that can occur later.
This time is in your life for you to charge up the battery cells. It’s time to pamper; a time to take luxurious baths in milk and honey. You can lie there in the bath and worship the Lord. It’s a ministry you have. Before you ask God for another man, take care of Him. If you are not ministering to His needs, and yet you are always before Him, asking Him to give you one of His princes to minister to, your prayers are not being heard because you are not being faithful to Him. When you become faithful in your singleness, then you will be better prepared to be faithfully with a husband.
If you disregard the perfect husband, Jesus, you will certainly disregard the rest of us. If you ignore the one who provides oxygen, breath, bone tissue, strength, blood corpuscles, and life itself, you will certainly not be able to have regard for any earthly husband.....
....He wants you to come in at the end of the day and say, “Oh, Lord, I could hardly make it today. Whew, I went through so much today. I’m so glad I have You in my life. They tried to devour me, but I thank You for his time we have together. I just couldn’t wait to get alone and worship You and praise You and magnify You. You’re the One who keep me going. You’re the lover of my soul, my mind, my emotions, my attitude and my disposition.....
....There is nothing wrong with wanting to be married. Simply take care of the Lord while you’re waiting. Minister to Him. Let Him heal you, loose you, and worship Him. Single women ought to be the most consecrated women in the Church. Instead of singles being envious of married women, the married ought to be jealous of singles. You are the ones whose shadows ought to fall on people and they be healed. You are in a position and posture of prayer. The Lord has become you necessary food. Whilst some married women are dependent on their husbands, single women learn to be dependent on the Lord. God has no limitations. A married woman may have a husband who can do some things, but God can do everything. What a privilege to be married to Him. He told Joel, “And upon the handmaids…will I pour out My spirit” (Joel 2:29). God has a special anointing for the woman who is free to seek Him. Her prayer life should explode in miracles!
That does not mean it is wrong for you to want a physical companionship. God ordained that need. While you are waiting, though, understand that God thinks He’s your husband. Be careful how you treat Him. He thinks He’s your man. That’s why He does those special favours for you. It is God who made you into a beautiful woman. He has been taking care of you, even when you didn’t notice His provision. He is the source of every good thing. He keeps things running, and provides for daily care. It is He who opened doors for you. He has been your edge, your friend and your companion.
Those who are married seek to please their spouse. Unmarried people seek to please the Lord. There is a special relationship of power between God and the single believer. Paul wrote, “Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called” (1 Cor 7:20). In other words, the person who is single should be abiding, not wrestling, in singleness. Rather than spend all our effort trying to change our position, we need to learn to develop the position where He has placed us. Isn’t that what this means: “….I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content” (Phil 4:11). I speak peace to you today.
Maybe you haven’t been living like you really should. Maybe your house hasn’t been the house of prayer that it really could have been. I want you to take this opportunity and begin to sanctify your house and body. Maybe your body has been mauled and pawed by all sorts of people. I want you to sanctify your body unto the Lord, and give your body as a living sacrifice to God (Rom 12:1). If you can’t keep your vow to God, you would never be able to keep your vow to a man. Give your body to God and sanctify yourself.
When God picks a wife for one of His royal sons, He will pick her from those who are faithful and holy unto Him. He may pass over those who didn’t keep a vow to Him. If you will marry a king, he will have claimed you to be a queen. Begin to sanctify yourself. Bring you body before God. Bring your nature before God. Bring your passion to Him. Allow God to plug into your need.
Allow God to strengthen you until you can tell the devil “My body belongs to God; my whole body belongs to God. I’m God’s. and from the crown of my head to the soles of my feet, all that I am belongs to God. Early in the morning will I seek His face. I lie upon my bed at night and call on His name. I’ll touch Him, embrace Him. He is the God of my salvation.”
Marriage is ministry. If you are single, your ministry is directly unto the Lord. If you are married, your ministry is through your spouse. Then you will learn how to be devoted to God through the relationship you have with your spouse.
"A husband should love his wife as much as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it. He made the church holy by the power of his word, and he made it pure by washing it with water." Ephesians 5:25-26
....Marriage is the place in human society where true love can be expressed in a great way. Marriage partners are to give self-sacrificially to one another. Jesus gave Himself for the Church. So also do husbands and wives give themselves to each other. Marriage is not a place where we seek self-gratification. It is the places where we seek to gratify another.
The sacredness of marriage is found in the relationship between Christ and the Church. Jesus continues to intercede on behalf of the Church, even after He gave His all for us. He is the greatest advocate of believers. Jesus stands before God to defend and proclaim our values. Similarly, husbands and wives are to be bonded together to the extent that they become the greatest advocate of the other. Not demanding one’s own way, but always seeking to please the other.
There can be no doubt that God has special plans for each one of us. The woman who is single needs to recognize her position and seek to please God in every way. “Single” means to be “whole”. Enjoy being a whole person.....
....Stop murmuring and complaining. His presence is in the room! Worship Him! He is waiting on you..... "
Tink xoxo
Like, i said, it's been very heavily permeating my mind only in the last month or so and i actually received this excerpt in an email from a new acquaintence quite a while ago and have only just sat down and actually read it! I thought it was good which is why i'm blogging it here...have a read if you've got the time even if you're married or dating someone!
Anoint me...I'm single!
TD Jakes
"Some of you do not understand the benefits of being single. In reality, while you’re not married, you really ought to be involved with God. When you get married, you direct all of the training that you had while you were unmarried toward your spouse. The apostle Paul addressed this issue in his first letter to the church at Corinth.
“I want all of you to be free from worry. An unmarried man worries about how to please the Lord. But a married man has more worries. He must worry about the things of this world, because he wants to please his wife. So he is pulled in two directions. Unmarried women and women who have never been married worry only about pleasing the Lord, and they keep their bodies and minds pure. But a married woman worries about the things of this world, because she wants to please her husband.” 1 Corinthians 7:32-34
Single women often forget some very important advantages they have. At five o’clock in the morning you can lie in bed and pray in the spirit till seven-thirty, and not have to answer to anyone. You can worship the Lord whenever and however you please. You can lie prostrate on the floor in your house and worship and no one will become annoyed about it. “Unmarried women and women who have never been married worry only about pleasing the Lord.”
Often those who minister in churches hear unmarried women complain about their need for a husband, but rarely does a single women boast about the kind of relationship she is free to build with the Lord. Are you complaining about how you need someone? Take advantage of the time you don’t have to worry about cooking meals and caring for a family. While a woman is single she needs to recognize that she has the unique opportunity to build herself up in the Lord without the drains that can occur later.
This time is in your life for you to charge up the battery cells. It’s time to pamper; a time to take luxurious baths in milk and honey. You can lie there in the bath and worship the Lord. It’s a ministry you have. Before you ask God for another man, take care of Him. If you are not ministering to His needs, and yet you are always before Him, asking Him to give you one of His princes to minister to, your prayers are not being heard because you are not being faithful to Him. When you become faithful in your singleness, then you will be better prepared to be faithfully with a husband.
If you disregard the perfect husband, Jesus, you will certainly disregard the rest of us. If you ignore the one who provides oxygen, breath, bone tissue, strength, blood corpuscles, and life itself, you will certainly not be able to have regard for any earthly husband.....
....He wants you to come in at the end of the day and say, “Oh, Lord, I could hardly make it today. Whew, I went through so much today. I’m so glad I have You in my life. They tried to devour me, but I thank You for his time we have together. I just couldn’t wait to get alone and worship You and praise You and magnify You. You’re the One who keep me going. You’re the lover of my soul, my mind, my emotions, my attitude and my disposition.....
....There is nothing wrong with wanting to be married. Simply take care of the Lord while you’re waiting. Minister to Him. Let Him heal you, loose you, and worship Him. Single women ought to be the most consecrated women in the Church. Instead of singles being envious of married women, the married ought to be jealous of singles. You are the ones whose shadows ought to fall on people and they be healed. You are in a position and posture of prayer. The Lord has become you necessary food. Whilst some married women are dependent on their husbands, single women learn to be dependent on the Lord. God has no limitations. A married woman may have a husband who can do some things, but God can do everything. What a privilege to be married to Him. He told Joel, “And upon the handmaids…will I pour out My spirit” (Joel 2:29). God has a special anointing for the woman who is free to seek Him. Her prayer life should explode in miracles!
That does not mean it is wrong for you to want a physical companionship. God ordained that need. While you are waiting, though, understand that God thinks He’s your husband. Be careful how you treat Him. He thinks He’s your man. That’s why He does those special favours for you. It is God who made you into a beautiful woman. He has been taking care of you, even when you didn’t notice His provision. He is the source of every good thing. He keeps things running, and provides for daily care. It is He who opened doors for you. He has been your edge, your friend and your companion.
Those who are married seek to please their spouse. Unmarried people seek to please the Lord. There is a special relationship of power between God and the single believer. Paul wrote, “Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called” (1 Cor 7:20). In other words, the person who is single should be abiding, not wrestling, in singleness. Rather than spend all our effort trying to change our position, we need to learn to develop the position where He has placed us. Isn’t that what this means: “….I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content” (Phil 4:11). I speak peace to you today.
Maybe you haven’t been living like you really should. Maybe your house hasn’t been the house of prayer that it really could have been. I want you to take this opportunity and begin to sanctify your house and body. Maybe your body has been mauled and pawed by all sorts of people. I want you to sanctify your body unto the Lord, and give your body as a living sacrifice to God (Rom 12:1). If you can’t keep your vow to God, you would never be able to keep your vow to a man. Give your body to God and sanctify yourself.
When God picks a wife for one of His royal sons, He will pick her from those who are faithful and holy unto Him. He may pass over those who didn’t keep a vow to Him. If you will marry a king, he will have claimed you to be a queen. Begin to sanctify yourself. Bring you body before God. Bring your nature before God. Bring your passion to Him. Allow God to plug into your need.
Allow God to strengthen you until you can tell the devil “My body belongs to God; my whole body belongs to God. I’m God’s. and from the crown of my head to the soles of my feet, all that I am belongs to God. Early in the morning will I seek His face. I lie upon my bed at night and call on His name. I’ll touch Him, embrace Him. He is the God of my salvation.”
Marriage is ministry. If you are single, your ministry is directly unto the Lord. If you are married, your ministry is through your spouse. Then you will learn how to be devoted to God through the relationship you have with your spouse.
"A husband should love his wife as much as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it. He made the church holy by the power of his word, and he made it pure by washing it with water." Ephesians 5:25-26
....Marriage is the place in human society where true love can be expressed in a great way. Marriage partners are to give self-sacrificially to one another. Jesus gave Himself for the Church. So also do husbands and wives give themselves to each other. Marriage is not a place where we seek self-gratification. It is the places where we seek to gratify another.
The sacredness of marriage is found in the relationship between Christ and the Church. Jesus continues to intercede on behalf of the Church, even after He gave His all for us. He is the greatest advocate of believers. Jesus stands before God to defend and proclaim our values. Similarly, husbands and wives are to be bonded together to the extent that they become the greatest advocate of the other. Not demanding one’s own way, but always seeking to please the other.
There can be no doubt that God has special plans for each one of us. The woman who is single needs to recognize her position and seek to please God in every way. “Single” means to be “whole”. Enjoy being a whole person.....
....Stop murmuring and complaining. His presence is in the room! Worship Him! He is waiting on you..... "
Tink xoxo
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Tuesday, November 14, 2006
1 Comments:
Hey,
I just read your blog and it made me look at my life in a totally different way. I must admit I am guilty of wanting to be in a relationship with a guy but what you wrote really made me realise what my priorities should be. So thank you so much. It was really helpful!!!
Luv Jenna...
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